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[changeling]

My parents have just told me that I have to pay $100 a week board.

I only have six weeks work. I was hoping to save some money towards taking a small trip of about a week or so later this year. I wanted to put some money aside for travelling overseas. I wanted to put money away for moving out.

And now I have to pay $100 a fricking week. That was on the higher end of what Issy and I were looking at when I was going to MOVE OUT.


So now, I have all the fricking irritations of living at home, with none of the benefits, ie free board.

I have to live with the rest of my family, including my mother, when all I want to do is live in a tiny flat by myself in Thornbury.

I have to spend $100 to stay in this poxy house where I have few rights, and my parents feel free to come into my room and throw away half my stuff without so much as a by-your-leave. They say I have too much stuff? It wouldn't be if I had a fricking flat to keep it in, instead of ONE TINY FUCKING ROOM!



They say they'll give some of it back when I move out... in the same way that they paid for me to move out when I started uni? Because I remember that was promised, and that never fucking eventuated.

If you'll excuse me, I'm going off to cry.

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[frzn-mmnt.livejournal.com]

Honestly, for people who call themselves your family that's pretty damn excessive. Chris and I have pay 500 a month for TWO of us, plus we get discounts to the rent if we buy food that contributes to "staples" that everybody eats. That's only 100 dollars more that YOU by yourself are paying. And that's pretty sick.

I know it's probably futile, but maybe try suggesting you'll pay for some of the food or some other commodity in exchange for paying a LOT less rent.

*hugs* I'm here for you.

[delirieuse.livejournal.com]

*hugs* Thanks.

In their defence, "most of the rent will go towards upkeep of the car you're driving. We just had to fork out $1000 for that car. Blah blah blah."

Although how the $40 p/w they claim it costs to run a car is "most" or "half" (as they later claimed) is beyond me.

When I move out, I'm leaving the wretched car behind. I really hate it at the moment. I just don't want to be here.

[shinyandnat.livejournal.com]

*many hugs* I'm sorry, honey, that all sounds very sucky.

But who knows... they may actually give you the money, but at the very last minute, long after you've worked out and have all the money you do need to move out.

[delirieuse.livejournal.com]

It is.

Pardon me while I laugh hollowly...

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[shinyandnat.livejournal.com]

*hugs* It's a long shot, but you never know... sometimes parents surprise you.

[delirieuse.livejournal.com]

I don't care any more. I just want to disown mine.

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[shinyandnat.livejournal.com]

Sounds like a plan.

[delirieuse.livejournal.com]

*cries*

Nat, you have to get a job, so we can move out.

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[shinyandnat.livejournal.com]

I'm wokring on it, I promise! I applied for TWO jobs tonight, I did I did I did.

[semplice.livejournal.com]

$100 a week? That's insane. You could rent a one bedroom flat in Albury for less than that.
That's very much not fair. Wish I could help, unfortunately I can't.
Hopefully things will turn around for you and you'll manage to move out soon.

[delirieuse.livejournal.com]

Maybe I'll run away and rent a flat in Albury, then.

I really, really hope so.

[inblackink.livejournal.com]

Good God! Sounds like the rent in Miami...

I'm very sorry the 'rents aren't more understanding - but it won't last forever...

*hug*

[delirieuse.livejournal.com]

Let's hope not. *hugs*

[painispretty.livejournal.com]

*hugs*

Perhaps you could suggest that if they're going to treat you like a lodger, you have lodger's rights (ie, privacy, having your belongings left alone, etc,)?

[delirieuse.livejournal.com]

That's what I'm planning on doing. I'm going to draw up an agreement, if I have to.

*cries* I just don't want to be here.

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[painispretty.livejournal.com]

*hugs* I know, I know. If they're determined to make you a paying customer, then you need a contract. I'm sorry this is turning out so poo-ly for you.

*hug*

[delirieuse.livejournal.com]

With any luck I'll just move out. Of course, then I have to worry about getting jobs frequently enough to pay the rent.... I just can't win!

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[painispretty.livejournal.com]

But at least you'll have your own space.

[delirieuse.livejournal.com]

Yes. And hopefully this will be soon. Maybe I can get some form of Youth Allowance as well...

[tycho.livejournal.com]

Okay, if you need to have a place to crash in case your parents actually set this up, I have a free bedroom. There's not much closet space, but yeah, a place with roof over your head & food which won't cost you $100 per week.
The offer's there if you need it.

[delirieuse.livejournal.com]

Thanks. *snugs*

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[tycho.livejournal.com]

No problemo.
Though, in all honesty, apparently parts of the house smell a little funny, what with me having little to no olefactory senses.

[delirieuse.livejournal.com]

Have we not mentioned before that I also have little to no sense of smell?

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[tycho.livejournal.com]

* considers * Must've slipped my mind. Sorry about that.

[delirieuse.livejournal.com]

It's all good.

[buhfly.livejournal.com]

*cuddle* When I lived alone, I had a huge one bedroom apartment for $600/month. That's only $200 less than what your parents are asking for. Unless you're getting a whole bunch of stuff along with it, maybe you should ask them to reconsider...? *cuddle*

[dorukai.livejournal.com]

That's a cheap apartment.
Utilities and food included though? Heh.
How much were you paying per month to live there including EVERYTHING?

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[buhfly.livejournal.com]

That was just rent. Everything total, it was probably $800, if I was careful. The apartment was cheaper 'cause the parking was terrible, but it was in a good neighborhood and right next to my high school (this was when I was still in high school), so. *shrug* It's not that cheap.

[dorukai.livejournal.com]

So $200 a month on food, electricity, phone etc?
That's very impressive! Good going . . .

And yeah, you're right, for a one bedroom that's not that great. I was comparing to a 2 bedroom I lived in once. My bad.

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[buhfly.livejournal.com]

If I were careful, yeah. Not careful, the electricity bill would skyrocket 'cause I live in AZ and the summers are evil.

...If I could find a two bedroom for $600, I would never move out. *giggle*

[mattglenn.livejournal.com]

I have to pay $100 a week to Bek. It is a lot of money, it is about half of what I get from centrelink. It is just one of those things some of us have to put up with.

[bekscilla.livejournal.com]

Mind you, the $100 includes all his food, all the utilities, any phone calls he makes from the land line, and cable interenet.

Are they going to make you contribute to food, or the utilities as well?

[mattglenn.livejournal.com]

Sorry Bek, I should have said it *seems* like a lot until you look at what is included in that $100.

[delirieuse.livejournal.com]

I don't get any money from Centrelink. I am living at home. I also have no rights at home.

[dorukai.livejournal.com]

Personally I think that parents should only charge what it actually costs them for you to live there.

It'd probably cost you double that to move out by yourself (if not more), but it's almost certainly not costing them $100 per week for you to live there. If the weekly payments include you buying the car off them though that might change the maths quite a bit. Not sure. If it's $40 for the car it'd mean you cost them $60/week in food, utilities and internet, which might actually be reasonable.

They might try and justify it by saying "Well, we could rent the room out" (I've heard that one before), but that's pretty unlikely to happen even if you do move out.

[fin.livejournal.com]

Alternatively, you can say "Okay, fine. But these are my terms... if you don' t like it, you can renegotiate the terms..."

But seriously... there's always the option of putting things in cardboard boxes, storing them in the shed, and go squatting indefinitely at friends' places. I know of at least a few people who have done that. Oh, and don't forget to guilt-trip your folks while you're at it. If this is how they treat you, then they deserve it.